Friday, January 30, 2009

When Spirits Find You

One of our young granddaughters came to stay with us for a week over the holidays. It was new for us to spend so much time together without her brother and sisters around. It was also new for her to be at our house. So it was no surprise that sometime after midnight, she found her way to our bed and crawled in next to me. There is comfort in being close to someone you love when you are in a new environment. I fell asleep hoping she might find comfort that night.

My granddaughter has had a difficult time falling asleep. Since she was two years old, she has seen spirits, and as many of us discover, they seem to be more apparent to us at night. Not every spirit a child sees is necessarily harmful or scary, but when you mix a few of those in with confused and lost souls, children can lose site of the kind and helpful spirits that are also nearby. I assumed this was the case with my granddaughter, but I discovered there was much more going on.

In the middle of the night, I witnessed my spirit-body leap up on top of the bed. Sword in hand and slashing at menacing grey figures flying down toward our bed, I called out to them, asking them how they wanted to die. I knew these grey figures to be the energies that attack my granddaughter, filling her with fear in the night. The warrior in me was not going to let this happen to her again.

Of course, slashing at spirits with a sword is a little silly, and somehow my conscious mind broke through, realizing the futility of my efforts. When I was fully conscious, I looked at my granddaughter, who was sleeping quietly next to me, and decided to protect her more effectively.

I sang to her a protection song, the same song given to me to use when I am creating a protective circle for my questers. I sang until, the room was still and the energy around her was soft and loving. I called in the help she might need from the earthly and spirit worlds. I sang until the peace of the Divine settled in around her, my husband and me. Then I settled in to sleep, knowing the power of the Divine that had been invoked through this medicine song.

My granddaughter slept through the night and long into the morning. Every night, I made sure she was wrapped in the song, and each night she fell asleep undisturbed in the middle of the night. She also started falling asleep earlier in the night.

Before we sent her home, I blessed an angel necklace for her with the song that had protected her so well. With the necklace came instructions to wear it throughout the day and to keep it close at night, especially when she needs to feel safe. I reminded her that ignoring mean spirits won’t make them go away. And suggested the necklace could be a reminder to call upon the angels that are there to assist and protect her when she is in need of help in the spirit world. The angels can only act on our behalf when they are asked.

Someday, when she is older, she will need to address these spirits herself. They will prove to be a place in which she discovers more of her own gifts and power. But for now, while she is young, she has enough protection to give her a chance to grow up without so much fear. Perhaps now she can find a little more comfort in her dream-time rather than the sleepless distress imposed by menacing spirits.

The spirit world is a dynamic place. There are as many personalities of spirits as there are personalities of people. They have as many motivations and intentions as people as well. Most of us have watched too many movies that portray the spirit world inaccurately. We don’t understand it, and so we attempt to deny its existence, or we try to frame it according to the scary books we have read and movies we have seen. In my own experience, spirits can often be a lot easier to understand and deal with than humans, when you understand them and their motivations.

Hopefully, as she gets older, I will be able to help my granddaughter find her own strength, and even comfort, in addressing the spirits she sees. Though it may seem like a curse right now, she is likely to discover that the ability to see spirits can be a gift that ultimately benefits the lost spirits who look to her for help and people who are struggling to find their own peace with them.

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Saturday, January 24, 2009

Are You Making Promises You Can Keep?

There I was standing in front of the priest, in my white dress and veil, making a promise I couldn’t keep. Just before I got to the part where I said, “until death do us part,” a bunch of contingencies were running through my mind. “I’ll stay with him that long provided he doesn’t start drinking heavily, hitting me, verbally abusing me, ignoring me, or anything that would give me just cause to leave.

What I really wanted to say in the vows was, “As long as you are kind and good, continue to grow spiritually, respect me, attend to my needs with the same regard you tend to your own, and communicate honestly with me, I’m here.” But if I had made a promise I could keep, I wouldn’t have been getting married in the church I had grown up in. Truth would have required I face myself, my parents, my church and my husband-to-be. I wasn’t ready to be that honest, so I made my vows while mentally crossing my fingers.

Some years later, I finally had the courage to be truthful with myself. My husband was a good man—a really good man. I had chosen well. Yet, my needs weren’t being recognized and honored within the relationship. I realized I needed to make a choice between being miserable the rest of my life, as my grandmother had been, or finding the inner strength to leave. When I started day-dreaming about him dying so that I would be free, I knew it was time to leave.

In retrospect, my own communication and problem resolution skills were not developed enough to save a failing marriage. I had only begun learning how to speak about my feelings, and how to progress from expressing my feelings to creating compassionate opportunities for two people to discover themselves with and through each other.

The next time I got married, I made a very different vow. I promised to be with him until we are complete. If we are complete tomorrow, I know I made a promise I was able to keep. The same is true if our bond continues past death. I haven’t attached to an expectation that could leave either of us regretting our choice.

It would be easy to think that I have somehow cheated, or given myself an easy out with this vow. Interestingly, the opposite is true. Complete to me, does not imply bailing out because I’m angry, hurt or dissatisfied. Complete means one or both of us have made a significant insight and have found motivation outside the marriage that is calling us into some new place for the continuance of our evolution.

This means I am far more conscious in this marriage. I am very careful, as is my husband, not to allow our relationship to linger in anger, hurt or dissatisfaction. We give thanks for each other’s company every day. We are grateful for each moment we get to spend together, doing our best not to attach to what tomorrow might or might not bring. I am even comfortable knowing someday he may meet someone with whom he feels more able to expand into his next level of spiritual growth. Because his happiness is as important to me as my own, through the tears and hurt of letting go, I would be his biggest fan for making any change he knew would further him in his journey.

As you enter into this year and make your New Year’s resolutions to yourself and others, I hope you will make promises you truly can keep. You can experience some real motivation to succeed, along with freedom to do what is truly right when commitments are in alignment with your truth.

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Thursday, January 15, 2009

Sensitivity, Apocalypse, and 2012

I just watched a series of programs on the history channel about the potential apocalypse and prophecies that may be leading us to tremendous global change in 2012. Whether you are following the Mayan calendar, the writings of Nostradamus, the bible, your favorite psychic channel, watching the effects of global warming, or your own intuitive hunches, you could find yourself wondering what the heck to expect in the next four years.

Apocalypse, comes from the Greek word apokalyptein, meaning to uncover. (Merriam-Webster). Though the concept of apocalypse has been used to imply more sinister, disastrous implications, like the battle of Armageddon—the ultimate battle between good and evil, the meaning of the word itself—to uncover or to unveil—sounds more like a promise of discovery to me. Whether we make our discoveries through trauma or joy, through our personal and societal relationships with good and evil, or through planetary changes that force us to live in greater balance, I expect the next four years will be full of opportunities to discover more of our true nature as humans of Divine origin.

If you are a highly sensitive or empathic person, you may be particularly vulnerable to the emotional and physical tides of change taking place. In order to stay clear and stable, you are probably going to need some kind of spiritual practice to help you maintain your equilibrium—to stay in the calm eye of the storm, rather than being tossed around by the tumult of the storm. I'm not necessarily talking about going to church, though you may find a church service or ceremony helpful to you. I'm talking about the kind of daily, personal practice that helps you become clear-minded, heart-centered, and on-purpose.

You may be drawn to the martial arts and the practice of kata. You may have a regular meditation practice that helps you maintain balance. You may discover that a daily spiritual ritual, chanting, or form of running energy works for you. Whatever it is, you may find yourself feeling called now more than ever to establish or go deeper into your practice.

Another way in which you can help yourself find and maintain balance is through your relationship with the elements—you know—earth, water, wind and fire. With all of the changes our Mother Earth is going through right now, she and those of us who live upon her all benefit as each of us develops stronger relationships with the elements. Someone with a strong relationship with the water can actually invite the rain to come or to leave, and expect a response from nature. Someone with a deep relationship with fire can invite the sun to dry the earth and expect nature to acknowledge the invitation. When you live in harmony with the animals, they know you are safe and they will come to bless your space, and help you maintain balance with the Mother. Even the plants can respond to your invitations. Not so sure about this? Here is an example from my own life.

Some years ago, I was living with my partner in a small trailer on his mother's property. We loved our little home and the nature that surrounded it. My partner and I were very sensitive to nature and had offered our blessings to the beings who shared our home with us. Our blessings included a sweet tree that we parked our trailer under, providing shade in the summer and protection from the snow and wind in the winter. We had also set clear intention with the spirits of the land that we would be protected from harm.

One particularly challenging winter, we had an ice storm. Power lines were breaking and falling to the ground and the tops of trees were snapping off. We had good reason to be frightened with only a thin metal shell to protect us, but we weren't. We were safe and we knew it. One morning we got up and saw the sweet tree that shaded us had split badly. It had four major branches, each one facing a different direction. All of them had snapped and fallen to the ground, except the one over our little roof. Just in case we should ever doubt the power of relationship with nature, the tree towering over my truck snapped at the peak and several feet of its top came crashing to the ground, missing the back of my truck by inches. Were those the results of our protection intention only? Maybe. But I don't think so.

At our quarterly meditations, I have witnessed deer running down the slope, stopping within feet of where we were meditating outside, wide-eyed with looks of wonder, as if to ask, "What motivated me to be here next to all these humans?" At SpiritQuest, I have seen animals come into the sacred space fanning their feathers, breathing on a quester, or walking the perimeter of the sacred circle and other forms of blessings and acknowledgments that we don't experience in day-to-day reality. I have witnessed snow fall in only four medicine corners and no where else. Though these may seem beyond normal, perhaps they should or could be regular occurrences.

Just as in Tantra, when you as a lover adore and express love for your partner, an opening is created for the partner to express love and adoration for you. There can be many flavors of expression, yet the flow of mutually exchanging energy, when invited, becomes a natural response.

One of the reasons the Foundation has fire meditations, water ceremonies, and SpiritQuest is to provide you with opportunities to deepen your relationship with the Divine within you and a natural exchange of energy with nature. As you fall in love with the Divine expressions of nature, you fall in love with aspects of yourself. Then a dance ensues, and yes, as we witness every year at SpiritQuest, such interactions between nature and humans do occur. Nature does help to nurture, protect, and provide in return for our care of her.

Regardless of what happens in 2012, I do know that the earth herself is calling us to love her more. We have an opportunity to step into true apocalypse—to unveil ourselves as we use our sensitivities to become clear-minded lovers of the Divine, ourselves, earth, and the precious gift of life itself.

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Thursday, January 08, 2009

What's in Spiritual Fashion for 2009?

Alright you spiritual fashion watchers. We are going to take a look at the trends for this coming year, but first let's consider the numerology behind the year itself.

Last year's numerology was 1. Wondering how 2008 became a 1? To get to a year's numerology you add up the digits. 2+0+0+8=10. 10 is basically a 1 with a 0 adding some punch to it. There might be more professional descriptions about the meaning of the 0, but that is how I think about it.

This year is a 2. And now you now how we get there. 2+0+0+9=11 and 1+1=2. For those of you who really enjoy numerology, you are going to notice we got to that 2 through an 11. According to some numerology teachers, 11 is a master number, which means that in this 2 year we may also find ourselves with opportunities to gain greater personal mastery from our lessons.

So what is a 2 year about. It is about relationships and partnerships. It is about developing meaningful and significant relationships. If you found yourself feeling a bit alone in the world last year, 2009 is the year to create deep relations. If you found yourself involved in lots of personal and individual pursuits last year, this year is the time to include someone else. Now let's take a look at how a 2 year is going to effect our spiritual fashion statements.

I consulted a few spiritually psychic people I know to share their predictions. So here is what is going out and coming in for 2009:

1. "I don't have time and energy for a meaningful relationship" is like wearing out-of-date clothes and pretending you feel on top of the world. If you want to be current and getting the most out of your life, you are going to have to make the time. Face those relationship fears and take the chance to discover somebody really special. Then together—laugh, play, cry, love and create a life to remember.

2. "If it is going to get done, I have to do it myself." Ok. You might have gotten away with that last year, but with all of the talented people in this world.....This year consider enlisting some help. When you are putting together a wardrobe, it helps to have some fresh perspective, so ask for some assistance, insights, and opinions. You never know, help just might come from the partner you have been waiting for.

3. "They just don't appreciate all I do for them." This is definitely headed for the cutting room floor. You won't see this in any of the trendy spiritual growth magazines. I recommend flipping the thought around. Try this one on for size and see if doesn't become your new spiritual fashion favorite, "I appreciate you, and you, and you, and you for your unique talents and contributions in my life." Get really specific. Tell people exactly what you just love about them and then watch people glow from the inside out.

4. "I'm working hard so that I can buy a ....." By all means, buy the things you want. Yet, have you noticed how it just never quite fills you up? Working hard to buy things is like giving yourself a quick fix. It's like wearing bling when what you really want to be wearing are precious stones. First of all, it is more fun to work with joy, diligence, persistence, ease, and grace than it is to work hard. Secondly, it is far more satisfying to work for a better life for our children, greater health and happiness for everyone you know, more beauty in the world. This is the stuff that is fulfilling long-term because it is like being at a party where everyone is having a good time with you. The short-term gratification of things will come along for the ride, so let go of the bling and go for the jewels.

5. "I can't afford to...." Listen, not of all of us have the money to purchase THE trendiest stuff, but when we say we can't afford it we deny our own creativity. Try this one on, "I don't choose to earn the money for, pay for, barter or do a work-trade for that. I prefer to invest my money, time and talent in...." Invest in what you believe in and in what you really want. If you want to attend the hottest spiritual workshop going, and you don't have the cash, let your— How can I make this happen? creativity—run wild. There just may be an opportunity waiting for you to find a way to pull it off the rack.

6. "We are all one." It is true—very true. It has just been over-done. We can be so busy trying to experience our oneness, that we forget to notice what incredible individuals we are. Our diversity is what makes us exciting. Where is the fun in a wardrobe that is all one color? If the Divine is experiencing life through us, then why not enjoy our diversity the way the Divine does? Why not create a huge palette of colorful friends to play with in 2009?

8. "I'm overwhelmed by life." The psychics are telling me this feeling may come up a lot in the next few years as we progress toward 2012. Here is the deal. You are probably wearing too many clothes. Take some of them off. Have you noticed how we can manage to pile on one fear on top of another, and pretty soon we are sweltering and panicked? My suggestions: 1) Breathe before you do anything else; 2) Look at a how many fears you are wearing; 3) Peel them off one at a time until you feel light. 4) Get help if you need it. 5) Remove fears until you are standing naked in your calm, clear, compassionate, grounded center. When you get dressed again, choose carefully the qualities you most wish wear. Choose garments that won't disrupt your clear, compassionate center. Regardless of what anyone else wears, or tries to pile on top of you, wear only what is absolutely perfect for you.

2009 could very well be one of those made-to-remember years. That is the nature of creating great partnerships. We can create really great memories from the wonderful experiences we share with others. So put on the clothes that have you feeling your best, grab your partner and create a year worth remembering.