Thursday, December 29, 2011

What’s in Spiritual Fashion for 2012?

Forget about dooms-day prophecies that will leave you in rags. Spiritual development is a fashion statement that is on the rise and that bodes well for all of us. This is the year for alignment and expansion in the spiritual fashion world. The planets are aligning with the center of the Milky Way and by extension—the center of the known universe, on December 22, 2012. In preparation, align with your true self and your heart, and your expression in the universe will be more expansive than it has ever been before.

Fling open those closet doors and get ready to envision your spiritual wardrobe in a whole new light. Repurpose those fabulous pieces you already have and get ready to add some exciting new colors and textures. Then step out into the world with flair as you share the unique expression that you are. And while you are out there, enjoy everyone else’s unique expression. There is no need for jealousy. If you see a great idea, you might want to add it to your own closet for even more creative combinations, but most importantly enjoy the richness of everyone’s unique spirit.

Just as I suggested last year, greed will weigh you down. It is the deadliest of fashion sins, and pulls you out of alignment with truth and expansion. So be prosperous AND generous. Throw out any of those old bags that encourage you to hoard your energy. Energy is meant to flow. The truth is that the universe is in an expansive state, so expand into the knowledge that there is plenty for everyone. Any constraint in the state of plenty is currently created by humans as a result of fear and is a temporary experience. The best way to avoid greed is to toss out those bags. Replace them with ones that allow you to easily give and receive.

Think generously and receptively. Is there some wonderful garment or accessory that you could be passing along to someone else? Is there an item you could gratefully receive that would add the perfect touch to your own creative combinations? Or maybe something new is required to bring the perfect accent to an old favorite of yours. Is your wardrobe so far out of date that you just need to start over? Surrender to the call of your own fashion success by giving away to others the beautiful items you no longer need and receiving the wonderful new pieces you do need.

Align With Your Inner Truth
. Do you have something in your closet you have completely forgotten about or given up on? There is likely some item hidden far away in your closet you once loved that really expresses who you truly are, but for some reason you found it too challenging to wear in the past. Well, this is the year to pull it out. Trying to make other people’s well-loved beliefs work for you when they just don’t fit isn’t going to work as well as dressing yourself with the concepts that convey your truth and deepest wisdom. With the economy struggling, you need to be innovative. Adorn yourself in the truth of your own fabulous creations.

Expand Your Possibilities. This is the year to go for it. Think bigger than you have ever thought before. See the possibilities of color, texture, and styles in your life. As I’ve said, the universe is expanding and so are you. So why not throw open your closet door to play in the possibilities. Take everything out of your closet and start mixing and matching them in new ways. You’ll discover a whole new wardrobe built on little-used garments you already own. Add a new belief here, a dose of understanding there, and revive one of those dreams that has been stuffed out of reach on the closet shelf—and do it all just for the fun of creating some new fashion statement that is uniquely yours.

Put Yourself in a Position to Receive
. The planets are aligning with a black hole—absolute darkness—also known as the womb of creation. This is the center of receptivity. So be fully willing to receive. Since many will be looking for new, creative combinations, people are going to be letting go of items that no longer work for them that just might work for you. Now I’m not suggesting you accept clothing and accessories that are not in alignment with you. I’m talking about ideas and insights that add the perfect spark to your own creative endeavors. Whether you are considering new timely investments, steady income sources, healing modalities, a delightful relationship, or powerful spiritual insights, open up your closet and your arms. Put yourself in the best position to receive exactly what you need to flesh out your most exciting wardrobe.

These fashion choices were in-style last year and they are still vogue this year:

Say Yes or Say No. Be decisive about what new creations you are going to add to your wardrobe. You are probably going to get some urges about how cool it would be if you could create a such-and-so. Here’s the deal. Time is moving fast and windows of opportunity are getting smaller. So if the desire is real, create with zeal. If the desire isn’t profound or you just can’t seem to pull all the right garments and accessories to together, let the idea go entirely. Send the idea back to the universe so that someone else can see what they can do with it. There are limitless ideas available, so keep your creative juices flowing and see what clever innovation comes to you next. Invite your posse to join you in designing a new look that you and many others will enjoy.

The Sacred Feminine is Chic. We’re not just talking about fashion for women here. The Sacred Feminine is uni-sex. Listening, understanding, and being compassionate or tolerant of others’ needs and choices are qualities we all need to have available to us. If you find yourself needing a little more quiet time, add it to your daily ensemble, because something in your intuition is trying to get your attention. This could be just the breakthrough you need to expand your spiritual wardrobe. When your intuition speaks, follow it without reservation. Your boldness will be rewarded by a universe of support responding to your willingness to get out there with your own special statement.

The Style of Choice Is Kindness
. A person glows in kindness. It radiates from the soul outward. Be sure to let go of any beliefs that you are more radiant than anyone else, and really look around you. Everyone is beautiful in some way, and when you are looking through eyes of kindness, you’ll see the beauty—your own and theirs—without any need to compete with anyone else’s radiant presence.

These are the spiritual fashion tips for 2012. Remember, don’t get caught up in dooms-day prophecies. You certainly want to let go of fashion treasures you no longer use or baggage that is weighing you down. Whenever you let go of anything you no longer need there is an opening for something better. Invite into your life an incredible year by aligning to your deepest truth and opening to your most expansive nature. This is the time to bring your own fabulous spiritual fashion statement into full view.

Monday, December 19, 2011

In This Season of Light…

During this beautiful season of light, may we honor the light within ourselves and each other.

This article, written in 2009, seems as appropriate now as it did then to honor the light within us that the holidays awaken.

Have you experienced a time in your life when your absolute dedication to a higher path was required in order to transcend the oppression of fear? Have you experienced perhaps a dark night of the soul, when all seemed lost, but you found the spark of a sacred fire burning within you and fed it with whatever hope and love you could gather together at the time?

I love the historical story of the menorah I have heard told during Hanukkah. Imagine having faced oppression with great conviction, even risking your life to reclaim your temple in honor of your faith. Then as you go to light the menorah (symbolizing the Light of God) you discover you only have enough sacred oil for one day of burning, rather than eight, but you light the menorah anyway. To your surprise the meager amount of oil lasts eight days.

After facing the fears that oppress you, have you ever gone to feed your inner sacred fire, thinking, I don’t have enough to give, only to discover that what you had to give was somehow enough?

During this season, the darkest season of our year, and the traditional time for the holidays of Hanukkah, Solstice, Christmas, and Kwanzaa, many of us will be celebrating with symbols of light.

We will light candles, menorahs, bonfires, and kinaras across the globe, and some of us will put lights around our homes and businesses. In that light, we will celebrate dedication, family, love, unity, birth, miracles, hope and new life.

Isn’t it interesting how precious the light becomes to us when we are experiencing the very depths of darkness. Even the tiniest light may be a reflection of our greatest intentions—our own light the reflection of our manifestation—bursting forth from the darkness of our own becoming.

Any flame must be fed. So as we enter this season when so many spiritual traditions honor or use the flame to remind and inspire, perhaps we can ask ourselves: “With what will I feed my flame? Will I feed it with my fears, anger and pain? Or will I feed it with love, truth and trust?”

Will you be willing to find new ways to honor the light within yourself and within others? How will you choose to honor that light starting right now?

As you do, know that there is at least one person in the world, deeply grateful that you have brought forward your light to share with us all.

Thursday, December 15, 2011

Archetypes of the Sacred Feminine

We are probably most familiar with the archetypes of the Sacred Feminine described as personalities or goddesses. I’d like to suggest that there is another way to experience the archetypal energy of the Sacred Feminine. This is a perspective that may actually make more sense to some of you, especially our beloved men.

In my observations consulting with clients, participating and facilitating retreats and ceremonies, and in meditation practice, I have discovered that humans experience similar emotions. It seems that when someone is feeling a particular emotion and expressing it, we are able to identify with this very human occurrence.

If you take an emotion such as frustration into the Creation Meditation (, and if you stay present in compassion long enough, you will eventually feel the universal connection that we have to feeling frustrated.

One of the skills I teach in our Secrets of the Sacred Feminine Revealed ( video series is how to hold raw emotion when someone is projecting their feelings onto you. There is a way to do this without ever entering their spiritual space, or sending them energy for the purpose of trying to make their life better or getting them to change so that you feel more comfortable.

Holding energy for a general positive affect, without ever entering someone else’s energy field, can be done because we are all connected through the energy of emotion. Therefore, if I address and allow healing for the intensity of my feelings and wounds behind my own emotions I affect the fabric of the web of life. We are archetypically connected through our emotions.

Consider how much emotions motivate our lives and our choices. When I was a business consultant, I noticed how often logically derived decisions were actually motivated by someone’s passionate desire for a specific outcome or driven by their passionate dislike for a particular methodology or approach.

We might tell the world we are basing our decisions on facts alone, and we may actually use well-established data to help inform our choices, but behind the facts, you will usually find an emotion motivating the general direction of the choice.

When we allow ourselves to sit in compassionate witnessing of our emotions, we are honoring an aspect of the Sacred Feminine within us. How often in your life have you tried to ignore your emotions in your decision-making processes, because you have found emotions to be unreliable and too intense?

Yet, if we were to be extremely honest with ourselves, we might discover our emotions are quietly driving our choices, in the background. Passive aggressive behavior is a case-in-point.

If I’m upset with my partner, but cannot safely communicate that feeling, nor know what to do about it, I might suppress that feeling in my dialogues with that person. However, unaddressed, my feeling of being upset simmers underneath the surface, until I do something to undermine the other person, ridicule or shame them about something. Passive aggressive behavior is a form of retaliation that arises when we are not meeting our true feelings in compassion.

Take that same feeling of being upset and hold it in compassion in a thoughtful, meditative setting until that feeling has been adequately understood, and you will find you know longer are driven by that feeling—subconsciously or consciously.

When the feeling is no longer driving your choices, your energy is free to hold space for your own needs, as well as someone else’s. Your creativity and intuition emerge to find new approaches that allow your needs and those of another person to be met simultaneously, without ever attempting to change someone else or suppressing your deepest desires or feelings.

Feelings are, in effect, faces of the Sacred Feminine. Each face or archetype exists for a reason and deserves to be recognized. When honored, those feelings become doorways of awakening to our true selves, where we are able to hold in love all feelings and all potential for the expression of life.

Thursday, December 08, 2011

Why We Need Connection to Mother Earth

Each year that I facilitate our annual SpiritQuest Ceremonies, a group of us commit to living with Mother Earth rather than on her and that simple shift in perception is the difference between being human and trying to figure out what it means to be human.

In an age when we live in climate controlled houses, cars, offices and stores; in an age where we buy our food from grocery stores and spend some portion of our days on computers, it is easy to lose touch with our natural and symbiotic relationship with the earth.

But lose that relationship and you can lose your health, not to mention your peace of mind and spiritual awareness. In my book, The Root of All Healing, I describe what can actually happen when your cycles and rhythms fall out of sync with Mother Earth. Believe it or not, there is a documented and researched illness that comes with being disconnected from our Mother and her natural cycles, also known as circadian rhythms.

Here is a selection from my book that explains what can happen:

Symptoms of being out of sync with our natural cycles, also known as circadian rhythms, include stress, physical tension, emotional frustration, depression…and all of these can contribute to on-going illness. The effects of being out of balance with natural circadian cycles is explained in a white paper by Apollo Health Incorporated: ‘In reality circadian rhythms control the timing, quantity, and quality of the hormones and neurotransmitters the body produces and eventually secretes. Hormones and neurotransmitters are the elements that determine how we feel, our sleep patterns, our appetite, our sex drive, and other sleep and mood-related issues. When functioning properly, our circadian rhythms create circadian balance. When out of balance, quantity, quality and timing of hormone and neurotransmitter secretions suffer and our bodies suffer from a circadian rhythm disorder (CRD).’

Now consider that it is winter-time and for many of us the current seasonal weather provides lots of motivation to stay inside, safely tucked away from Mother Earth. As we distance ourselves from her, we increase the probability that we will experience the difficult physiological and emotional symptoms of being disconnected.

There are also mental and emotional benefits to connecting with Mother Earth. Have you ever been completely distraught, confused, frustrated or depressed and opted to take a long, long walk? Perhaps you found yourself walking through a park, a forest or along a beach. Isn’t it amazing how quickly you calm down and you develop some new perspective about your life?

Mother Earth is a natural healer, when we allow ourselves to spend time with her, even in the winter—perhaps, especially in the winter. A walk in snow or in the rain can do wonders for your mind and heart. Within minutes, worries dissolve and huge issues become small. Try taking a walk with someone when you are in a disagreement and watch how quickly you find resolution together. The minute we sink into the Mother’s rhythms, our own rhythms find their center, which is true inner peace.

That same inner peace creates an opening within us for experiencing our own mystical nature and the mystical nature of Mother Earth. As you find greater peace, you’ll notice that your dreams change, wild animals come up to you, you recognize the Mystery of the Divine in all of life, and your spiritual insights and abilities become more evident and helpful. The spirit-world opens up to you. The more you enter into relationship with the Mother the more the Mystery reveals itself to you.

I’m not talking about theoretical understanding. I’m referring to spiritual experience—mystical experiences. I used to think I was just lucky to have so many mystical experiences and finally I realized that I started having those beautiful, awakening experiences when I started developing a relationship with the Mother Earth. When I began seeing her and experiencing her as a significant part of my life—through her water, stones, animals, sky, clouds—all of her, the veil dropped. Her mysteries and the mysteries of creation throughout the universe were now available to me.

That’s when you realize what it truly means to be human, because you know you are not separate from life. You know in your bones that you are a wonderful part within the magnificence of creation. I invite you during this holiday season, to do it. Create the time to get outside and spend time with your Mother. She is one of the greatest healers and mystics you will ever meet.

Thursday, December 01, 2011

Complacency’s Call

Have you ever thought to yourself that because you have things figured out well enough in your life, you can just coast for a bit? I know I have.

And while the “I have things figured out” voice is urging you on, a little voice in the back of your mind is warning you not to be too smug. Some part of you knows that if you assume your apprenticeship in life is over or on hold, your life could end up being like stagnant water. Complacency can be a place to hide when some part of you wants to experience greater flow and greater fulfillment, but another part of you knows that in order to experience free, unobstructed flow, you would need to do some deeply honest introspection.

I recently had a fascinating conversation with two of our initiated elders from the Sacred Path of the Feminine on this topic. Their insights were thought provoking. When I asked them what they thought we run away from when we become trapped in complacency they both said that we enter into this frozen state of thinking that we don’t need to learn and evolve when we don’t want to look at what we have been attracting, what is not working, and what is not satisfying in our lives.

If my own life is representative, their assessment of the reason we become complacent is spot on. I once spent a significant part of my life telling myself I knew enough. I didn’t learn new ways of developing because I couldn’t believe that my unhappiness and dissatisfaction were the result of my own beliefs, habits and choices. Those patterns of thoughts, feelings and behaviors had become normal for me and I had grown somewhat comfortable with my almost functional world.

I was doing okay, but I certainly wasn’t happy, and I definitely wasn’t living a life of joy. I was getting by and calling that good enough.

It would have been extremely difficult to admit that my world was a reflection of my pain, and that my decisions were influenced more by my pain than by my inner peace. What I didn’t know was that the sexual abuse I had experienced as a child was the greatest pain influencing my life. Since I couldn’t remember the event, it was part of my unknown—an unknown I didn’t want to remember. My life wasn’t working as well as I wanted it to, but I didn’t want to see the root of my suffering or the basis of my unrest and dissatisfaction with my world.

I wanted to feel fully accepted, but I didn’t know how to accept my pain as a legitimate part of me needing to be loved. What I didn’t understand was that if I wanted to be able to fully accept myself, I was going to have to sacrifice and let go of my fear of the unknown. I was going to have to find a way to love the wound I couldn’t remember.

What I didn’t understand then was that by entering into the unknown with my own compassionate heart and experiencing the love that was there, I would become free from my fear of the unknown. In that freedom I would find all of the self-acceptance and understanding that I could ever want. I would even be able to hold the part of me that attracted sexual abuse as an experience in this lifetime—the self-abuser inside of me. I didn’t know that I could love that pain until it existed no more, and I was completely free from its influence in my enthusiasm for life.

The unknown is another way to describe the Sacred Feminine—a vast, limitless womb of potential. What we don’t realize when we are in our complacency is that the remedy is the very body of the unknown that we fear.

The potential of the human being is quite fearsome. We have the potential to be abusive monsters or caring saints. When our potential is initiated in love, we are born as amazing, loving beings. When we disconnect from the love, our abusive tendencies manifest.

In the Sacred Feminine we have the capacity to love it all. So when our abusive tendencies or our experiences of being abused are held in the Sacred Feminine, we return to love and are reborn in the womb of that love.

In complacency we are often avoiding a wound within ourselves that we don’t want to remember. Compassion in the Sacred Feminine is what our soul longs for because in that compassion the source of our wound will be loved and understood, and we will be reborn in that love. The action that emerges from our rebirth will be right action in the full expression of our loving passion for life.

(See our video series, Secrets of the Sacred Feminine Revealed for ways to safely enter the unknown and hold the abuser and victim that lives inside of everyone:

Complacency is call from the unknown. It is a call to compassion—deep abiding compassion. Complacency is a call to return to the loving, universal womb of the Sacred Feminine. After being in its still and quiet caress, your life force will emerge in flow with your deepest longings.