In this series, we have been talking about how valuing yourself for who you are is a Sacred Feminine or yin quality that is just as important to your well-being as the Sacred Masculine or yang quality of valuing yourself for what you achieve.
Many of us get out of balance with these two energies when we attempt to find personal value solely through accomplishment. In that endeavor, or in resistance to it, some of us crash and burn to the point we are unable to accomplish anything. We try to push ourselves into action, and that only makes the exhaustion worse.
Either we are so busing achieving that we don’t really have time and energy to allow someone else into our space, or we are too exhausted to be able to actually enjoy someone. If we are not in balance with our own energy, we have a difficult time finding a balanced partner.
When we do attract someone, they are often reflecting our own state of imbalance. They reflect not only what we love about ourselves, but they also reflect our fears. Those fears keep us from enjoying the deep and meaningful relationships we long for.
Of course, this is the journey of relationship—balance within yourself and balance with another person. But if you don’t have a regular practice for maintaining your own balance, it is likely that anyone you attract won’t have a regular practice either.
Two people out of balance only have fun for a little while. Isn’t it true that it is much easier to be patient and understanding, and less inclined to try to fix each other, when you know your partner is making true effort to address his or her fears and limits, and is actually opening to their Divine nature? Isn’t it probable that your partner would want you to pay the same attention to your own inner balance?
When you are in balance, you establish a field of balance. Then it is easier for your partner to simply gravitate toward the balance you have established.
I invite you to take a moment to reflect on your partner. Describe your perfect partner. Then ask yourself, “How could I bring more of those qualities into my life right now, without a partner?”
By becoming the qualities you want to attract, you are using the energy of the Sacred Feminine to attract your perfect, and most meaningful partnership.